Who’s been draining your energy lately?

Hey!

Today I’m sharing a tip to handle that one person in your life who is draining your energy. 

You know, the one I mean…. 

They rarely let you speak and when you finally do, they don’t listen.

They criticise your new interests, friends and ways of doing things. 

They seem to only talk about arguments, conflict and frustrations

They leave you feeling drained of energy and hopeless.

You’re questioning the value of this person in your life. 

When on a journey of transformation, it’s normal to notice an inner conflict about people you once shared a deep bond with. 

As we evolve, let go of our limiting beliefs, our traumas, our wounds, as we become more connected to our Higher Self, our purpose, our soul, our mission…

We start to see the world differently, which is to say……we change. 

This can be triggering for some colleagues, acquaintances, friends, family members, and even a partner. 

Our change can trigger fears of being left behind, becoming irrelevant, or even abandonment.

It’s not always the case that everyone we love and are connected to joins us on our journey of self actualisation.

This is not a reflection of us, our chosen path, or the other person, just a natural part of the change process. 

So how best to deal with growing pains in a relationship of any kind.

It can be helpful to know there are always 5 options that are always available to you, and that you are always choosing one. 

Here they are: 

1. Change the relationship. Start a conversation and attempt to create change. This might involve explaining your perspective and listening to theirs, setting a boundary or taking timeout.

1. Leave the relationship. Say your goodbyes, or not, and leave the relationship behind.

1. Change your perspective on the relationship. Accept the new relationship for what it is, appreciate it and focus on what you love about it. 

1. Remain a victim to the relationship. Allow the relationship to continue to drain your energy

1. Do nothing. 

Remember that whichever one you are choosing now, you always, at any point, have all 5 available to you. 

I’m guessing if you made it this far, you have someone in your life that fits the profile. 

So, which option are you choosing right now? 

Are you happy with that one? 

Do you want to choose a different option?